Well, first of all I would like to say THANK YOU to all of you! You have no idea how much each of you has blessed my life! I had no idea what kind of support I had been missing out on these last 3.5 years as I've wallowed in self-pity and kept all of this built up inside of me. I thought that no one would understand what I was going through because "they all already have kids" but that is not it at all! As my sister-in-law Terri related to me today, pain is pain and all of us know what that feels like and, no matter what, we can all be there for each other in some way. I can't believe what LOVE and COMFORT I have received from my friends and family. I am so sorry that I underestimated each of you and I want you to know that that "yucky" part of me is gone. I feel so thankful. I have so much to learn!
THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! for all of your prayers. I have felt them. I don't recall a time in my life when I can say that I have experienced that before. It has been amazing to actually feel your prayers.
I have learned so much and I know there is still much to learn. I hope that you can continue to encourage me and help me through this and I hope to be able to do the same for each of you.
Love,
Danielle
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
A funny thing happened on the way to the pharmacy
So, if my calculations are correct, my period is supposed to start this weekend so I made a trip to Wal*Mart yesterday to fill my prescription for Clomid. I have talked to several friends who have used it, as well as my fertility nurse, and my doctor--I am well versed on what it is for and how to use it. However, since I have never actually used it before I had to have the consultation with the pharmacist when I picked it up.
So, I walk up to the window and the pharmacist asks if I've ever taken the medication before. I answer no (thinking to myself...isn't this why we are having this conversation in the first place??) And then (while reading directly from the instruction sheet) he says, "So, um...take this on days 3-7 of your month." I'm looking at him like, is this guy for real, my month? So I clarify, "my cycle" and he mumbles, "yes, your...um...cycle". I'm trying so hard not to laugh in the guys face as he stumbles through this consultation. He then asks me if I know what Clomid is for. (Holding back laughter and with a look on my face that says, "are you for real?") I say that I do. He then neatly folds up the prescription papers, looks at me and says, "Well, um...good luck." I couldn't hold it back any longer-I just turned as fast as I could and started laughing! What the heck kind of consultation was that??? I have ordered some pretty embarrassing prescriptions in the past and have never had a pharmacist act so shy or uncomfortable before. It was truly hilarious!
Anyway, I thought I'd share my funny moment!
So, I walk up to the window and the pharmacist asks if I've ever taken the medication before. I answer no (thinking to myself...isn't this why we are having this conversation in the first place??) And then (while reading directly from the instruction sheet) he says, "So, um...take this on days 3-7 of your month." I'm looking at him like, is this guy for real, my month? So I clarify, "my cycle" and he mumbles, "yes, your...um...cycle". I'm trying so hard not to laugh in the guys face as he stumbles through this consultation. He then asks me if I know what Clomid is for. (Holding back laughter and with a look on my face that says, "are you for real?") I say that I do. He then neatly folds up the prescription papers, looks at me and says, "Well, um...good luck." I couldn't hold it back any longer-I just turned as fast as I could and started laughing! What the heck kind of consultation was that??? I have ordered some pretty embarrassing prescriptions in the past and have never had a pharmacist act so shy or uncomfortable before. It was truly hilarious!
Anyway, I thought I'd share my funny moment!
Saturday, January 17, 2009
I don't get it.
Okay, so the consultation went really well yesterday! The nurse said that, at this point, we have no real reason to worry that we won't be able to conceive. The next step is for Clinton to get a new semen analysis done because his previous was from November of 2006. I'm supposed to be starting Clomid on my next cycle, and on day 21 of my next cycle I will be going in to get my Progesterone levels checked to make sure that there is nothing wrong with my ovulation. If all goes well with both his test and mine then that is good. If not, then we'll continue testing.
Now, the confusing part: As I stated before I felt really good about pursuing this route of fertility treatment but now I am second guessing to what extent or for how long I should be doing this, because I also feel like I should finish school. I'll be done with my associates this summer or fall and then I'll be going back into the cosmetology program which I'll complete in about 12 months. So, that is about two more years!! I don't have a way to skip the associates and go straight into the cosmetology program, because the school I used to attend won't be federally accredited until this summer (aka, can't afford to pay for it w/o student loans), so I thought I'd just get my associates in the mean time.
I feel so confused because I have a desire to have children, but I feel like I should focus on school, too. I don't know if I want kids because I'm the only one in my circle of friends who doesn't have kids and therefore I feel a bit of pressure, or if I can't get rid of the desire to have children because it is really what I am supposed to be pursuing!?
I've been thinking and praying about it a lot lately and have been trying to decide what would make me happy. Above all other things, what will ultimately make me the happiest in this life? I think it would be to have a degree-something that was for me, and have children...but I want them both now! I don't want to wait two more years before we even begin this whole process of starting a family! I feel like I've had to wait so long already and the thought of at least two more years makes my stomach do somersaults. But I am trying really hard to understand what the Lord would have me do. I know that He is trying to teach me and bless my life and I feel like I am butting against it at times.
I need some advice. I don't like that infertility is such a major part of my life. I want to be able to focus on ME and not be constantly reminded that I don't have kids. How do I get over that? How do I change my thoughts from "They have kids. I don't" to something more positive like "I don't have kids and that's okay!"? If I just didn't have the desire to have children I could wait two more years with no problem! Is there a way to make that go away? I want to get out of this schlump and start living MY life, whatever it may be. Any suggestions on how to find it?
Thanks so much for your support. I hope that I'm not bothering anyone with these posts, but believe it or not, they are helping me to overcome this trial and become/find the better person inside of me.
Thanks!
Now, the confusing part: As I stated before I felt really good about pursuing this route of fertility treatment but now I am second guessing to what extent or for how long I should be doing this, because I also feel like I should finish school. I'll be done with my associates this summer or fall and then I'll be going back into the cosmetology program which I'll complete in about 12 months. So, that is about two more years!! I don't have a way to skip the associates and go straight into the cosmetology program, because the school I used to attend won't be federally accredited until this summer (aka, can't afford to pay for it w/o student loans), so I thought I'd just get my associates in the mean time.
I feel so confused because I have a desire to have children, but I feel like I should focus on school, too. I don't know if I want kids because I'm the only one in my circle of friends who doesn't have kids and therefore I feel a bit of pressure, or if I can't get rid of the desire to have children because it is really what I am supposed to be pursuing!?
I've been thinking and praying about it a lot lately and have been trying to decide what would make me happy. Above all other things, what will ultimately make me the happiest in this life? I think it would be to have a degree-something that was for me, and have children...but I want them both now! I don't want to wait two more years before we even begin this whole process of starting a family! I feel like I've had to wait so long already and the thought of at least two more years makes my stomach do somersaults. But I am trying really hard to understand what the Lord would have me do. I know that He is trying to teach me and bless my life and I feel like I am butting against it at times.
I need some advice. I don't like that infertility is such a major part of my life. I want to be able to focus on ME and not be constantly reminded that I don't have kids. How do I get over that? How do I change my thoughts from "They have kids. I don't" to something more positive like "I don't have kids and that's okay!"? If I just didn't have the desire to have children I could wait two more years with no problem! Is there a way to make that go away? I want to get out of this schlump and start living MY life, whatever it may be. Any suggestions on how to find it?
Thanks so much for your support. I hope that I'm not bothering anyone with these posts, but believe it or not, they are helping me to overcome this trial and become/find the better person inside of me.
Thanks!
Thursday, January 15, 2009
I need your prayers!!
So, I have my consultation with the fertility nurse tomorrow morning where we will be discussing my fertility options, my health history, and the steps that we will be taking over the next little while. I have been looking forward to this appointment but I have come across something that is a little bit discouraging and am in need of all the prayers I can get! I'll talk more about it tomorrow after my appointment, because perhaps I am worrying about nothing, but in the mean time I need my faith strengthened. I know that the Lord's will will prevail and I am just hoping that I can feel and understand what He would have us do. If you don't mind keeping us and our situation in your prayers, I would really appreciate it!
Thanks so much!! We appreciate all of you!
Thanks so much!! We appreciate all of you!
Sunday, January 11, 2009
New Steps
So, I went to the doctor this last week to talk about endometriosis. I went in to the appointment expecting to have to fight for lapriscopy (see endometriosis post) and the doctor (after a little bit of convincing) said that she would be totally willing to do the lapriscopy. She said, however, there were other ways of dealing with the pain of endometriosis (birth control...kinda defeats the purpose) and I informed her that we had actually been trying to conceive for over three years. She asked, "Well, do you want to control the pain by lapriscopy? You may or may not have it. Or would you like to pursue the route of getting pregnant?"
....
Now, I have to preface this, because I went into this appointment with a prayer in my heart that whatever needed to happen-would happen. I was expecting to come out of the appointment with a scheduled surgery.
....
I asked what option I had, and she offered to put me on Clomid. Clomid is a fertility drug that stimulates and increases the potency of ovulation. She said that there is no reason Clinton and I have not conceived yet and that if I would like to go a less invasive route first, she would put me on Clomid. I'm still not sure why, but I decided to go with the Clomid option. I don't really have any problems with my ovulation, however my cycle is long (usually about 42 days).
When you've dealt with infertility for a long time you begin to become calloused to anything actually working, so I'm not saying that I am going to get pregnant off this, however, I do feel that this is the step that Heavenly Father would have us take at this time. Perhaps it is just one more thing that I can cross of my list of "have-dones". Perhaps I just need to see that I really have done everything that I need to do before I do something more invasive like lapriscopy. Perhaps this will be the answer we've been waiting for for so long.
So, this is where we are. Now is the time of my life that I become a regular at the doctor's office and get over my anxiety with needles...because there will be lots in my future!
I feel SO BLESSED though. I have been in limbo for so long, not being able to afford to do any of this (Yeah student loans and living in my parents' basement!) and now I finally can. I feel like I am moving forward. I feel like changes are happening and looking back seems to be so short. Again, I have no idea where this will lead, if anywhere, but I know that we have received direction from the Lord and that He will bless us in whatever way is right.
....
Now, I have to preface this, because I went into this appointment with a prayer in my heart that whatever needed to happen-would happen. I was expecting to come out of the appointment with a scheduled surgery.
....
I asked what option I had, and she offered to put me on Clomid. Clomid is a fertility drug that stimulates and increases the potency of ovulation. She said that there is no reason Clinton and I have not conceived yet and that if I would like to go a less invasive route first, she would put me on Clomid. I'm still not sure why, but I decided to go with the Clomid option. I don't really have any problems with my ovulation, however my cycle is long (usually about 42 days).
When you've dealt with infertility for a long time you begin to become calloused to anything actually working, so I'm not saying that I am going to get pregnant off this, however, I do feel that this is the step that Heavenly Father would have us take at this time. Perhaps it is just one more thing that I can cross of my list of "have-dones". Perhaps I just need to see that I really have done everything that I need to do before I do something more invasive like lapriscopy. Perhaps this will be the answer we've been waiting for for so long.
So, this is where we are. Now is the time of my life that I become a regular at the doctor's office and get over my anxiety with needles...because there will be lots in my future!
I feel SO BLESSED though. I have been in limbo for so long, not being able to afford to do any of this (Yeah student loans and living in my parents' basement!) and now I finally can. I feel like I am moving forward. I feel like changes are happening and looking back seems to be so short. Again, I have no idea where this will lead, if anywhere, but I know that we have received direction from the Lord and that He will bless us in whatever way is right.
Update
Okay, so I have decided to open up this blog to anyone. I must warn that it is my page to release any anger, frustration or heartache that I might endeavor during my struggles with infertility. This blog is also a place for me to list and expound upon all the blessings and wonderful moments of hope and encouragement that I experience as I learn from infertility.
I would like for all of my friends who have anything to say to say it. There will be times when I need to hear that everything is okay and that you are there for me. There will be times when I need for you to listen and be patient. There will be times when I need a hug and some chocolate.
The purpose of me opening up this blog (it has been private for some time) is so that I can write what I feel, have it read and inform those around me of where I am in my life. I feel that for so long I have distanced myself from all of my friends who have children because I have felt like a bit of an outsider, but I want this blog to serve as a link, an informer of why I act the way I do sometimes in hopes that it can bring us closer together.
Infertility is hard. It is hard to watch others receive what I have tried so hard to get, but have only been found wanting even more. I want my friends to know how much I love them. I want them to know that I have appreciated the baby shower invites and am sorry that I have not been able to attend all of them (those are one of the hardest places for me to be.) However, I am not asking for pity. I am asking for patience and understanding as I try to learn and grow through this trial. I feel I have come far already, but there is still room to grow. I feel that part of that growth is opening up about all of this instead of keeping it bottled up inside. If you choose to keep reading my posts, please don't be offended or upset if I write something personal, I need your support.
I think I have said everything I wasn't planning on saying, so I should probably end this post here. Thank you for reading and for taking the time to help me learn. I hope I can teach you something, too.
Love,
Danielle
I would like for all of my friends who have anything to say to say it. There will be times when I need to hear that everything is okay and that you are there for me. There will be times when I need for you to listen and be patient. There will be times when I need a hug and some chocolate.
The purpose of me opening up this blog (it has been private for some time) is so that I can write what I feel, have it read and inform those around me of where I am in my life. I feel that for so long I have distanced myself from all of my friends who have children because I have felt like a bit of an outsider, but I want this blog to serve as a link, an informer of why I act the way I do sometimes in hopes that it can bring us closer together.
Infertility is hard. It is hard to watch others receive what I have tried so hard to get, but have only been found wanting even more. I want my friends to know how much I love them. I want them to know that I have appreciated the baby shower invites and am sorry that I have not been able to attend all of them (those are one of the hardest places for me to be.) However, I am not asking for pity. I am asking for patience and understanding as I try to learn and grow through this trial. I feel I have come far already, but there is still room to grow. I feel that part of that growth is opening up about all of this instead of keeping it bottled up inside. If you choose to keep reading my posts, please don't be offended or upset if I write something personal, I need your support.
I think I have said everything I wasn't planning on saying, so I should probably end this post here. Thank you for reading and for taking the time to help me learn. I hope I can teach you something, too.
Love,
Danielle
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